爱的细节
Details of Love
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细节xìjiédetail
节目把热闹的爱情传闻和日常细节作对比，我暗暗觉得，这种对比比奖项更有意思。
The programme set dramatic love stories against everyday details; I quietly felt that this contrast was more interesting than the prize itself.
电台diàntáiradio station
社区电台办了一期婚姻节目，邀请几位女士到现场叙述自己的经历。
The community radio station produced a programme about marriage and invited several women to tell their stories.
恩爱ēn'ài(of husband and wife) loving
主持人先请听众投票，选出最能说明恩爱的故事；入围的三组伴侣接着要回答评委的问题。
Listeners first voted for the account that best illustrated a loving couple, and the three finalist pairs then answered the judges' questions.
对比duìbǐto compare; to contrast
节目把热闹的爱情传闻和日常细节作对比，我暗暗觉得，这种对比比奖项更有意思。
The programme set dramatic love stories against everyday details; I quietly felt that this contrast was more interesting than the prize itself.
入围rùwéito be shortlisted
主持人先请听众投票，选出最能说明恩爱的故事；入围的三组伴侣接着要回答评委的问题。
Listeners first voted for the account that best illustrated a loving couple, and the three finalist pairs then answered the judges' questions.
评委píngwěijudge, member of a judging panel
主持人先请听众投票，选出最能说明恩爱的故事；入围的三组伴侣接着要回答评委的问题。
Listeners first voted for the account that best illustrated a loving couple, and the three finalist pairs then answered the judges' questions.
如何rúhéhow
评委问她，如何在这样漫长的日子里不抱怨。
A judge asked how she had avoided resentment through such long years.
瘫痪tānhuànto be paralyzed
轮到一位女士时，她没谈鲜花或旅行，只说丈夫病后右半身瘫痪，走路也歪歪扭扭，连手指也难以灵活活动。
离婚líhūnto divorce
多年前，丈夫的哥哥离婚后很消沉，半夜打电话说想自杀。
自杀zìshāto commit suicide
多年前，丈夫的哥哥离婚后很消沉，半夜打电话说想自杀。
抱怨bàoyuànto complain
评委问她，如何在这样漫长的日子里不抱怨。
A judge asked how she had avoided resentment through such long years.
爱护àihùto take good care of
他半边身子不能动，脑袋却始终清楚；我是他老婆，就更爱护他的身体。
Half his body cannot move, yet his mind stays clear; as his wife, I take all the more care of his health.
婚姻hūnyīnmarriage
社区电台办了一期婚姻节目，邀请几位女士到现场叙述自己的经历。
The community radio station produced a programme about marriage and invited several women to tell their stories.
吵架chǎojiàto quarrel
她笑道：我们年轻时也常吵架，有时会不耐烦，甚至为了小事吵得很凶；可他从不冲我大声喊，也从不说难听的话。
She smiled: when we were young, we also quarrelled, sometimes fiercely over trivial things; but he never shouted at me and never said anything hurtful.
相敬如宾xiāngjìngrúbīn(of husband and wife) to respect each other like guests
她停了停，说自己从未把相敬如宾当成冷淡，而是一种愿意照看对方的习惯。
She paused and said she had never treated mutual respect like guests as coldness, but as the habit of caring for the other person.
暗暗àn'ànsecretly; to oneself
节目把热闹的爱情传闻和日常细节作对比，我暗暗觉得，这种对比比奖项更有意思。
The programme set dramatic love stories against everyday details; I quietly felt that this contrast was more interesting than the prize itself.
轮lúnto take turns
轮到一位女士时，她没谈鲜花或旅行，只说丈夫病后右半身瘫痪，走路也歪歪扭扭，连手指也难以灵活活动。
不耐烦bù nàifánimpatient
她笑道：我们年轻时也常吵架，有时会不耐烦，甚至为了小事吵得很凶；可他从不冲我大声喊，也从不说难听的话。
She smiled: when we were young, we also quarrelled, sometimes fiercely over trivial things; but he never shouted at me and never said anything hurtful.
靠kàoto lean against
夫妻俩立刻赶去，她握着他的手，丈夫靠在门边陪他等待天亮。
肩膀jiānbǎngshoulder
她每天扶住他的肩膀，把药放在他够得着的地方，等待他慢慢伸手；夜里还要替他赶蚊子，免得被叮醒。
喊hǎnto shout; to call
她笑道：我们年轻时也常吵架，有时会不耐烦，甚至为了小事吵得很凶；可他从不冲我大声喊，也从不说难听的话。
She smiled: when we were young, we also quarrelled, sometimes fiercely over trivial things; but he never shouted at me and never said anything hurtful.
伸shēnto stretch; to extend
她每天扶住他的肩膀，把药放在他够得着的地方，等待他慢慢伸手；夜里还要替他赶蚊子，免得被叮醒。
手指shǒuzhǐfinger
轮到一位女士时，她没谈鲜花或旅行，只说丈夫病后右半身瘫痪，走路也歪歪扭扭，连手指也难以灵活活动。
歪歪扭扭wāiwāiniǔniǔcrooked; askew
轮到一位女士时，她没谈鲜花或旅行，只说丈夫病后右半身瘫痪，走路也歪歪扭扭，连手指也难以灵活活动。
递dìto hand over; to pass
真正的恩爱，未必没有争吵，也未必永远像传说那样甜；它藏在一轮又一轮重复的小事中：有人累了，另一人愿意递杯水；有人害怕，另一人愿意伸出肩膀。
脑袋nǎodaihead
他半边身子不能动，脑袋却始终清楚；我是他老婆，就更爱护他的身体。
Half his body cannot move, yet his mind stays clear; as his wife, I take all the more care of his health.
女士nǚshìMs.; lady; madam
社区电台办了一期婚姻节目，邀请几位女士到现场叙述自己的经历。
The community radio station produced a programme about marriage and invited several women to tell their stories.
叙述xùshùto narrate
社区电台办了一期婚姻节目，邀请几位女士到现场叙述自己的经历。
The community radio station produced a programme about marriage and invited several women to tell their stories.
居然jūránunexpectedly
女士居然反问：难道每天记得给他倒水、把灯调亮、把药放在固定位置，不算爱吗？
The woman unexpectedly replied: does remembering to pour him water, brighten the lamp, and leave his medicine in its usual place not count as love?
催cuīto urge; to push
节目结束前，主持人催评委作决定。
Before the programme ended, the host urged the judges to decide.
等待děngdàito wait
她每天扶住他的肩膀，把药放在他够得着的地方，等待他慢慢伸手；夜里还要替他赶蚊子，免得被叮醒。
蚊子wénzimosquito
她每天扶住他的肩膀，把药放在他够得着的地方，等待他慢慢伸手；夜里还要替他赶蚊子，免得被叮醒。
半夜bànyèmidnight
多年前，丈夫的哥哥离婚后很消沉，半夜打电话说想自杀。
叮dīngto bite; to sting
她每天扶住他的肩膀，把药放在他够得着的地方，等待他慢慢伸手；夜里还要替他赶蚊子，免得被叮醒。
老婆lǎopowife (informal)
他半边身子不能动，脑袋却始终清楚；我是他老婆，就更爱护他的身体。
Half his body cannot move, yet his mind stays clear; as his wife, I take all the more care of his health.
吵chǎoto make noise; noisy
她笑道：我们年轻时也常吵架，有时会不耐烦，甚至为了小事吵得很凶；可他从不冲我大声喊，也从不说难听的话。
She smiled: when we were young, we also quarrelled, sometimes fiercely over trivial things; but he never shouted at me and never said anything hurtful.
项xiàngmeasure word for itemized things
节目把热闹的爱情传闻和日常细节作对比，我暗暗觉得，这种对比比奖项更有意思。
The programme set dramatic love stories against everyday details; I quietly felt that this contrast was more interesting than the prize itself.
患难与共huànnàn yǔ gòngto share weal and woe
她说，患难与共并不是一句漂亮话，而是在最乱时还肯留下来。
Listen to the text
社区电台办了一期婚姻节目，邀请几位女士到现场叙述自己的经历。主持人先请听众投票，选出最能说明恩爱的故事；入围的三组伴侣接着要回答评委的问题。节目把热闹的爱情传闻和日常细节作对比，我暗暗觉得，这种对比比奖项更有意思。
shè qū diàntái bàn le yī qī hūnyīn jié mù， yāo qǐng jǐ wèi nǚshì dào xiàn chǎng xùshù zì jǐ de jīng lì。 zhǔ chí rén xiān qǐng tīng zhòng tóu piào， xuǎn chū zuì néng shuō míng ēn'ài de gù shì； rùwéi de sān zǔ bàn lǚ jiē zhe yào huí dá píngwěi de wèn tí。 jié mù bǎ rè nào de ài qíng chuán wén hé rì cháng xìjié zuò duìbǐ， wǒ àn'àn jué dé， zhè zhǒng duìbǐ bǐ jiǎng xiàng gèng yǒu yì sī。
The community radio station produced a programme about marriage and invited several women to tell their stories. Listeners first voted for the account that best illustrated a loving couple, and the three finalist pairs then answered the judges' questions. The programme set dramatic love stories against everyday details; I quietly felt that this contrast was more interesting than the prize itself.
轮到一位女士时，她没谈鲜花或旅行，只说丈夫病后右半身瘫痪，走路也歪歪扭扭，连手指也难以灵活活动。她每天扶住他的肩膀，把药放在他够得着的地方，等待他慢慢伸手；夜里还要替他赶蚊子，免得被叮醒。她说得平静，台下却安静下来。
lún dào yī wèi nǚshì shí， tā méi tán xiān huā huò lǚ xíng， zhǐ shuō zhàng fū bìng hòu yòu bàn shēn tānhuàn， zǒu lù yě wāiwāiniǔniǔ， lián shǒuzhǐ yě nán yǐ líng huó huó dòng。 tā měi tiān fú zhù tā de jiānbǎng， bǎ yào fàng zài tā gòu dé zhe de dì fāng， děngdài tā màn màn shēn shǒu； yè lǐ hái yào tì tā gǎn wénzi， miǎn dé bèi dīng xǐng。 tā shuō dé píng jìng， tái xià què ān jìng xià lái。
When it was a woman's turn, she did not speak of flowers or travel. She said only that after an illness her husband's right side was paralysed; he walked unsteadily and even his fingers could no longer move freely. Every day she steadied him by the shoulder and set his medicine where he could reach it, waiting for him to stretch out his hand; at night she chased away mosquitoes so that their bites would not wake him. She spoke calmly, but the room grew quiet.
评委问她，如何在这样漫长的日子里不抱怨。她笑道：我们年轻时也常吵架，有时会不耐烦，甚至为了小事吵得很凶；可他从不冲我大声喊，也从不说难听的话。他半边身子不能动，脑袋却始终清楚；我是他老婆，就更爱护他的身体。她停了停，说自己从未把相敬如宾当成冷淡，而是一种愿意照看对方的习惯。
píngwěi wèn tā， rúhé zài zhè yàng màn zhǎng de rì zi lǐ bù bàoyuàn。 tā xiào dào： wǒ men nián qīng shí yě cháng chǎojià， yǒu shí huì bù nàifán， shèn zhì wèi le xiǎo shì chǎo dé hěn xiōng； kě tā cóng bù chōng wǒ dà shēng hǎn， yě cóng bù shuō nán tīng de huà。 tā bàn biān shēn zi bù néng dòng， nǎodai què shǐ zhōng qīng chǔ； wǒ shì tā lǎopo， jiù gèng àihù tā de shēn tǐ。 tā tíng le tíng， shuō zì jǐ cóng wèi bǎ xiāngjìngrúbīn dāng chéng lěng dàn， ér shì yī zhǒng yuàn yì zhào kàn duì fāng de xí guàn。
A judge asked how she had avoided resentment through such long years. She smiled: when we were young, we also quarrelled, sometimes fiercely over trivial things; but he never shouted at me and never said anything hurtful. Half his body cannot move, yet his mind stays clear; as his wife, I take all the more care of his health. She paused and said she had never treated mutual respect like guests as coldness, but as the habit of caring for the other person.
她又提到一件往事。多年前，丈夫的哥哥离婚后很消沉，半夜打电话说想自杀。夫妻俩立刻赶去，她握着他的手，丈夫靠在门边陪他等待天亮。她说，患难与共并不是一句漂亮话，而是在最乱时还肯留下来。
tā yòu tí dào yī jiàn wǎng shì。 duō nián qián， zhàng fū de gē gē líhūn hòu hěn xiāo chén， bànyè dǎ diàn huà shuō xiǎng zìshā。 fū qī liǎ lì kè gǎn qù， tā wò zhe tā de shǒu， zhàng fū kào zài mén biān péi tā děngdài tiān liàng。 tā shuō， huànnàn yǔ gòng bìng bù shì yī jù piāo liàng huà， ér shì zài zuì luàn shí hái kěn liú xià lái。
She then mentioned a private memory. Years earlier, her husband's older brother became deeply despondent after a divorce and called at midnight to say he wanted to kill himself. The couple left at once. She held his hand while her husband waited beside the door until daybreak. Shared hardship, she said, is not a pretty phrase; it means staying when everything is at its worst.
节目结束前，主持人催评委作决定。一位评委问：你们没有为谁牺牲得轰轰烈烈，为什么还叫幸福？女士居然反问：难道每天记得给他倒水、把灯调亮、把药放在固定位置，不算爱吗？她的声音很轻，却让人想到婚姻里最容易被忽略的一项责任。
jié mù jié shù qián， zhǔ chí rén cuī píngwěi zuò jué dìng。 yī wèi píngwěi wèn： nǐ men méi yǒu wèi shuí xī shēng dé hōng hōng liè liè， wèi shén me hái jiào xìng fú？ nǚshì jūrán fǎn wèn： nán dào měi tiān jì dé gěi tā dào shuǐ、 bǎ dēng diào liàng、 bǎ yào fàng zài gù dìng wèi zhì， bù suàn ài ma？ tā de shēng yīn hěn qīng， què ràng rén xiǎng dào hūnyīn lǐ zuì róng yì bèi hū lüè de yī xiàng zé rèn。
Before the programme ended, the host urged the judges to decide. One asked why their life could be called happy when neither had made a spectacular sacrifice. The woman unexpectedly replied: does remembering to pour him water, brighten the lamp, and leave his medicine in its usual place not count as love? Her voice was soft, but it called to mind a responsibility most easily overlooked in marriage.
后来我听完录音，才明白评委想找的答案未必是惊人的。真正的恩爱，未必没有争吵，也未必永远像传说那样甜；它藏在一轮又一轮重复的小事中：有人累了，另一人愿意递杯水；有人害怕，另一人愿意伸出肩膀。细节不替人决定婚姻，却常常说明两个人是否还把彼此放在心上。
hòu lái wǒ tīng wán lù yīn， cái míng bái píngwěi xiǎng zhǎo de dá àn wèi bì shì jīng rén de。 zhēn zhèng de ēn'ài， wèi bì méi yǒu zhēng chǎo， yě wèi bì yǒng yuǎn xiàng chuán shuō nà yàng tián； tā cáng zài yī lún yòu yī lún zhòng fù de xiǎo shì zhōng： yǒu rén lèi le， lìng yī rén yuàn yì dì bēi shuǐ； yǒu rén hài pà， lìng yī rén yuàn yì shēn chū jiānbǎng。 xìjié bù tì rén jué dìng hūnyīn， què cháng cháng shuō míng liǎng gè rén shì fǒu hái bǎ bǐ cǐ fàng zài xīn shàng。
After hearing the recording, I understood that the judges' answer need not be startling. Lasting affection does not mean no arguments, or a life as sweet as a legend. It is hidden in repeated small acts: one person offers water when the other is tired, or a shoulder when the other is afraid. Details do not decide a marriage, but they often show whether a husband and wife still hold each other in mind.
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Grammar
评委问她，如何在这样漫长的日子里不抱怨。A judge asked how she had avoided resentment through such long years.
Subject +如何+ Verb
如何. "如何" is a pronoun used to ask how something is done. It's often used in written or formal contexts. It can also be used at the end of a sentence to seek opinions or inquire about a situation.
我们明天举行会议，讨论这个问题该如何解决。
Wǒmen míngtiān jǔxíng huìyì, tǎolùn zhège wèntí gāi rúhé jiějué.
We'll hold a meeting tomorrow to discuss how to solve this problem.
夫妻俩立刻赶去，她握着他的手，丈夫靠在门边陪他等待天亮。
Subject +靠+ Object/靠着/在+ Place
靠. "靠" is a verb commonly used in the pattern "靠着/在……", meaning to rest part of the body against someone or something for support. It can also mean to rely on or depend on something/someone.
王老师喜欢靠着桌子讲课。
Wáng lǎoshī xǐhuan kàozhe zhuōzi jiǎngkè.
Teacher Wang likes to lean on the desk while teaching.
女士居然反问：难道每天记得给他倒水、把灯调亮、把药放在固定位置，不算爱吗？The woman unexpectedly replied: does remembering to pour him water, brighten the lamp, and leave his medicine in its usual place not count as love?
Subject +居然+ Verb/Adjective
居然. "居然" is an adverb meaning unexpectedly or surprisingly. It's used to express that something happened contrary to expectations, often indicating surprise or disbelief.
这么简单的题，你居然也不会做？上课时都干什么去了？
Zhème jiǎndān de tí, nǐ jūrán yě búhuì zuò? Shàngkè shí dōu gàn shénme qù le?
Such a simple question, you still can't do it? What were you doing in class?
Which word means “to complain”?
Culture
婚姻关系 - Marriage Relationships
Chinese people often regard marriage as a long term commitment between two families. Weddings in the past stressed ritual, while more people today value equality and communication, yet shared life still requires patience. Love appears not only in holiday gifts but also in sharing housework, caring for an ill partner, and respecting the other person's choices. When spouses meet difficulties, a relationship can gradually become secure only if they keep the other's needs in mind. The woman in the passage shows this ordinary yet firm love through the daily care she gives her ill husband.
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恩 from 恩爱 · (of husband and wife) loving
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